Foren / Cotonti / General / Private message check

First of all I only do this to see if anyone is disobeying the rules.Now where is the DB located?(Here of late I have noticed that my topics always end up at this)(where someone answers my question or asks for more detail(this happens in between the span of 5 minutes to 24 hours)(then I post again and I wait for another day.)(sometimes there is still no answer by then.)({I would like to change that})